We’ve written blog posts and done videos before about eliminating bad habits. There’s the Slight Edge way of making one small change at a time. There’s the 5 Second Rule way of counting backwards from five and just do something different.
There are also people who say to just replace the bad habit with something positive.
But there are 4 more ways I bet you’ve never heard before.
The 4 Steps
Mark read an article last year about how to change bad habits, and it shared some information from Jim Rohn’s 7 Strategies for Wealth & Happiness.
I became intrigued and read some of the 7 Strategies for Wealth & Happiness.
I guess that’s where the Jeff Olson and Mel Robbins got the ideas for their books because their books incorporated principles on changing bad habits that Jim Rohn covers in his book: take small steps day after day until the big habit has been eliminated and replaced with a good habit (Slight Edge), and Just Do It (5 Second Rule).
Here are the 4 steps the article talked about:
- Disgust with ourselves
- Making a decision when our backs are to the wall
- Desire that won’t be extinguished
- Resolve to do or die
Disgust with Ourselves
When you become “sick and tired of being sick and tired” of anything, when you are tired of mediocrity and are desperately needing something different in your life, disgust rears its ugly head.
Most people do not think of “disgust” as being a positive emotion, but if used in the right way, it can be the most powerful change agent that we have.
When those feelings of hopelessness, of embarrassment, of looking at yourself in the mirror and not liking what you see……then it is time to change.
When Mark looked at his life and felt disgusted, then he KNEW that he had to stop doing what he was doing, that it was time to make a drastic change.
Making a Decision When our Backs are to the Wall
Most of us avoid making decisions until our backs are against the wall, and at that point our emotions are all tied up in knots.
You know the feeling…. it feels like there is a huge knot in your gut. We lay awake in bed in the middle of the night, or have that horrible feeling of anxiety to where you break out in cold sweats, or have that heavy feeling in your chest to where even breathing is difficult.
Mr. Rohn talks about being at a fork in the road, with 2, 3 or even 4 different paths available to you. The best advice I have heard is that you need to make a decision right there and then. Even if it is the wrong decision, at least it is a decision. Wrong decisions can be fixed, a lack of decision cannot.
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Desire That Won’t Be Extinguished
How do we achieve desire?
Almost anything can trigger a desire.
Watching a motivational video, seeing a picture, a conversation with another person, going on a walk and observing nature in its glory, a dream…it could be anything.
The key is to allow these things to occur. To not wall off the world so that you cannot experience an event that is going to inspire you, to give you a desire to do something….anything! We all need something to happen to make us want to scream “I want it now!”
The same wall that keeps out your disappointment also keeps out the sunlight of enriching experiences. So let life touch you. The next touch could be the one that turns your life around.Jim Rohn
Resolve to Do or Die
I WILL. No matter what happens, being able to say I WILL and then actually doing it.
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Here is a story that Jim Rohn shares in the article:
The best definition for “resolve” I’ve ever heard came from a schoolgirl in Foster City, California. Many years ago, I was lecturing about success to a group of bright kids at a junior high school. I asked, “Who can tell me what ‘resolve’ means?” Several hands went up, and I did get some pretty good definitions. But the last was the best.
A shy girl from the back of the room got up and said with quiet intensity, “I think resolve means promising yourself you will never give up.”
That’s it! That’s the best definition I’ve ever heard: Promise yourself you’ll never give up.Jim Rohn
I know the idea of doing something different, making some kind of change is difficult. Trust me. That’s where the 5 Second Rule comes in. My life has changed since I read that book. Let me share one of the changes I have made in my life recently due to applying the 5 Second Rule.
I have always been a night owl. I love sitting in a dark room, unwinding from my day while everyone else is asleep. Maybe I’m playing Candy Crush on my iPad or watching a horror movie (yup, that’s how I relax!). I’d go to bed at 3:00 a.m.
Half my day is gone when I wake up at 10 or 11 a.m. By the time I had completed my morning rituals, I was eating breakfast at 12:30 p.m. I did want to change this habit, but at the same time I really didn’t. I wanted to continue enjoying my peace and quiet time, but I also knew the earlier I could get up, the more I could get done.
I read the 5 Second Rule. It talks about the fact that your brain takes about 5 seconds to think before it talks you out of whatever change you want/need to make, whether it’s changing the time you go to bed, putting down the cigarette, or going back to school.
So I started the first night….5….4….3….2….1. I got up and went to bed at 12:00 a.m. The next morning I did NOT want to get up at 8 a.m., but I counted….5….4….3….2….1 and got up.
I was pleasantly surprised! I really did get more done in my day. I was done with my transcription business by 3 p.m. and had 6+ hours to work on my business. It was incredible.
But that was not the only thing I’ve applied the 5 Second Rule to. That’s just an example of how applying the 5 Second Rule to push you to make that change, make that decision, and JUST DO IT can change habits and can possibly change your life.
So back to the original question, talking about “How are we Eliminating Bad Habits”. Well it seems to me that one of the best ways of changing bad habits is by creating yourself some good habits. It might need to be forced at first, but that is OK.
I’ve heard and read that doing something, anything, for 21 days in a row will turn that action into a habit. But it is also about continuing to grow and change and learn on a daily basis. It is about knowing that you deserve to be happy, and then doing whatever it takes to getting to that point in your life, about never settling for less than you desire.
We have found a couple of other articles on this topic.
WikiHow – How to Get Rid of Bad Habits
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